She Speaks

2008-01-06T19:33:00.000+08:00

Oh wow! 6 months since my last post.

I'd actually thought I had deleted this blog... serious!
But whaddya know! It's still around! Somehow, She Speaks has escapaed my impulsive habit of creating and deleting blogs...

Anyway, in the last 6 months, the boy I mentioned in the earlier post, well... he proposed.
I said yes.

I'm now proudly wearing the lovely ring he gave me and trying hard to make sure I don't screw things up!

And he... well he continues loving me - faithfully, selflessly, tenderly - loving undeserving me.

2007-06-04T09:17:00.000+08:00

I fell in love with this guy.

I'm in love with his goodness, his strength.

I'm in love with all the things I've discovered about him so far.

I'm in love with him. I'm in love with life!

The most awesome, unbelievable part is... he's in love with me!!

2007-02-23T10:53:00.000+08:00

Things to remember when terrible pissed off:

What can you do when someone shouts at you? Here’s a few things you can do:

- Speak in a conversational tone
- Don't raise your voice
- Take deep breaths; expel most of the air in your lungs
- Listen to understand, not to disagree
- State your opinion confidently
- Manage your ego and your temper
- It's only an opinion from the other person
- Don't go to war with words
- Remember the importance of the relationship
- Go hard on the problem, soft on the person

Thanks Ricky (http://www.mindsetmedia.com.sg), for that.

2007-02-11T18:46:00.000+08:00

I got this recently as a gift from a friend. I like!

And I highlighted my hair. First time EVER I coloured my hair. With red streaks!

MOstly been getting positive comments.

Wonder what my colleagues will say.

2007-02-04T11:17:00.000+08:00

“Love comes first into the heart of a woman,” says one of the male inhabitants of the island.

“Once it’s in the woman, only then can it jump into the man.”

Got that from here. Is she correct you think? Do the folks in Orango have it all right, after all?

Makes one kinda wonder, though... that if all the men we find even interesting just SHUT UP and let us call the shots, would this life markedly less stressful? Would the entire dating/courtship/relationship dance be freed of mind games, second guesses, wrong assumptions, misintepreted signs and be oh so much simpler if the men just sat and waited for the fish?

Then again, some women beg to differ. They argue that 'if we seek to take matters into our own hands and “do something” about a situation such as this, we are depriving a man of an opportunity to fulfill his God-given calling to lead'.

As for me, I plan to live by the moment and do whatever inspires me. :)

2007-01-30T16:57:00.000+08:00

Though not a mommy myself, I like reading mommy blogs.

Something about them tugs at my tough ol' heartstrings.

You just gotta love cute Irfan's smile, all about Ashley's growing up, and Jenn Tai's honest, and witty chronicles of child-raising.

But what the hell is up with this nut-case lar!! Her kids are the cutest but her writing is so bloody corny!!! Jeeeeez.. who's she kidding?

2007-01-30T12:39:00.000+08:00

My girlfriends will be out of the country for 2 weeks.

ALL 3 OF THEM!!

Now, what am I going to do with myself???

2 of them return before Valentines, though - phew!

2007-01-10T15:07:00.000+08:00

There's this one boy I kinda like.

But, I'm afraid that he won't like me back and I'll be disappointed OR that he'll like me back and I'll decide I don't like him enough to be anything more than friends and disappoint him OR that he'll like me back and we'll couple up and I'll forever compare him to my ex-boyfriend and forever remain disappointed OR that he'll like me and we'll couple up and a few months later I'll somehow screw it up and we'll both be disappointed

2006-12-21T07:52:00.000+08:00

And women continue to be stupid. Really, freaking stupid.

2006-12-19T08:34:00.000+08:00

Big promises by the new KL mayor.

We'll see.

2006-12-16T19:21:00.000+08:00

Stranded whale saved

Kudos again, Malaysia!

2006-12-04T21:39:00.000+08:00

There was a time in my uni days when this song was playing on everyone's Winamp (No IPODs those days)

I'd forgotten all about it until today when I heard it again today - the lyrcis still as impactful as it was when I first heard it.

My favourites:

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth.

Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on.

And my favourite-est!

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance.

Read the story behind the song here and listen to some asshole named Safran make fun of it here.

2006-12-04T15:44:00.000+08:00

YAAAAAAAYY!!

Good things are happening in my country! :))))

- Turtle goes back to sea after nursed back to health

2006-12-03T13:59:00.000+08:00

So there's this bachelor... yet another one, that I've been introduced to me by a cousin.

And there's at least half a dozen people wishing & praying & hoping that he'll like me and I'll like him and we'll get soon married and make a lot of babies.

But... he dances funny... and laughs funny.

How ah?

2006-12-02T18:17:00.001+08:00

Read this and tell me

how the hell it is

some women

... can be SO FUCKING STUPID!!

Gawd!

2006-11-30T19:39:00.000+08:00

My dad just sat me down, wanting to know why I've rejected my last two dates.

I told him.

He thinks I'm being too fussy.

eh???

...OF COURSE I'm being fussy! Who I choose to the spend the rest of my life with is something I plan to be VERY fussy about!

And I believe that's something I'll never regret.

2006-11-28T20:09:00.000+08:00

These girls, their ups and downs, joys and disappointments, frienships and loss, hopes and fears, made an excruciatingly painful break-up, just that little bit easier to deal with.

Fancy that. Silver screen characters healing my pain.

I miss them to such fucking bits, it makes me wanna break down and cry.

2006-11-26T20:28:00.000+08:00

Sweetness is...

... a 3 year old girl, walking up to you at a party saying, "Can you dance with me, please?"

:))

2006-11-24T22:46:00.000+08:00

Conversations Overheard in an LRT-ride Home

Conversation 1

"Kau kat mana ni Rosli? Cakap betul-betul. Jangan tipu aku.

Aku tau engkau keluar dengan perempuan lain kan? Kau bawak dia tengok wayang. Kau peluk dia kat cinema. Haah! Lepas tu kau bawak di pergi makan kat KFC. Lepas kau sumpah kat dia kau takde girlfriend! Haaah! Kau sumpah demi Allah, Rosli!!!

Sampai hati kau, Rosli!"

("Where were you, Rosli? Tell me the truth. Don't lie.

I know you went out with another girl, right? You took her to the movies. You put your arm around her in the cinema. Then you took her for dinner at KFC. Then you swore to her you didn't have a girlfriend! Your swore by God, Rosli!!!

How could you, Rosli?")

- Teenaged girl, in typical funky-KL-teen-wear over the telephone.

She looked upset, but something tells me she'll survive. After all, takes balls to confront someone like that.... and on public transportation!

And anyway, who cries very long over someone whose idea of a dinner date is KFC??

Conversation 2

"You're fired. You hear me? You're fired!

No, no, no! Just shut up and listen - you're FIRED, F-I-R-E-D!

Understand??

Don't talk so much. Just SHUT UP and call my lawyer.

You are always so full of shit. Why do you talk so much crap? BYE!"

- 20-something year old guy. Looked way to young to be in a position to be firing anyone! Spoke with a damn weird accent. In fact, sounded (and looked) like an asshole. I almost walked up to him and slapped him.

Man, I should take the train more often. With all this drama going on, so what if it goes off track once in a while?

2006-11-24T14:14:00.000+08:00

My date Tuesday night drives a really, really nice car.

Sue me but I can't remember the model or make. I only remember that it was red and sporty... and nice.

But hey, smart girls, and I mean really smart girls - don't marry for money.

2006-11-22T12:21:00.001+08:00

Confidence is trust or faith that a person or thing is capable. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself.

Usually when someone is referred to as 'confident' they are referring to self-confidence. Self-confidence is faith in one's own abilities. People with high self-confidence typically have little fear of the unknown, are able to stand up for what they believe in, and have the courage to risk embarrassment (for instance, by giving a presentation to a large group of people). One who is self-confident is not necessarily loud, brash, or reckless.

Source : http://en.wikipedia.org/

Confidence is, to me, a major turn-on in a man. A HUGE turn on. A REALLY, REALLY HUGE MAJOR turn on. To me.

No waxing intellectual, no using of big words to look smart, no silly jokes because you're so nervous. That's for boys.

The confident man is cool, calm, composed because he KNOWS he's great just the way he is.

.... Yes, I know I'm not going to be getting married anytime soon.

2006-11-21T12:53:00.000+08:00

Looks like everybody's gettin some...

...but me.

2006-11-18T13:23:00.000+08:00

It's the weekend and nobody's asked me out on a date :(

2006-11-16T20:04:00.000+08:00

Patrick Teoh's wife makes and sells great cakes!

My faves:

The Batmobile Cake

The Disco Cake

The Construction Site Cake

The Skull Island Cake

The Beach Cake

Oh! My mum just walked in. Showed her the pics. She nonchalantly said that she used to bake us cakes like these all the time when we were little.

Apparently, she once made me a Dressing Table cake, complete with trinklets like earrings and chains on it and after the cake had been cut, I actually wore the trinklets!

Jeez, was I always such an attention-seeking-drama-queen?

2006-11-15T17:26:00.000+08:00

This nearly brought me to tears.

Backman hit the nail on the head. My country lacks substance. Lacks depth.

Which is just too damned sad.

2006-11-14T11:46:00.000+08:00

Thanks to my job in a company where Malay is widely spoken, I tend to pepper my English with a LOT of Malay.

This is evident in an email I sent a colleague updating her on the past week. Excerpts below:

Kena flu last week.. MC on Thursday..

Belum nak pulih.. kena pergi Penang pulak.. fren's wedding. By bus some more... Come back terus batuk2...

Besok exam.. and then kene terus pergi PD for kursus..

Takde masa nak rehat pun!... kerja berlambak..
Kena buat 2 papers to the VP..

BTW, last week, I went out with this guy.. my sis's friend.
OK lar... not bad.. good company. If nothing happens also, can be good friends..

I sebenarnya quite takut also want to be in a serious relationship... after that horrible pengalaman dulu..
This colleague, like me, is Indian and we both speak English as our first language. So funny how we use so much Malay in our communication!

I'm fully aware that I'm doing justice to neither language. Rais Yatim would faint if he read this.

2006-11-10T17:02:00.000+08:00

http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2006/11/10/nation/15982536&sec=nation

Oh god.. not again.

2006-11-05T13:09:00.000+08:00

So I met yet another bachelor last night.

Ruled him out when he proudly proclaimed "Oh I barely go to church anymore. So busy-lar...

Anyway, God is everywhere."

NEXT!!

Fact : I want a man who's smart enough to know that there's a Being of much higher power than him who deserves his respect and homage, at the very least - once a week.

2006-11-03T21:14:00.000+08:00

I'm SO tempted to cheat on him :-(

Oh but can you blame me??

2006-10-31T17:03:00.000+08:00

It'a 5pm. A half hour more till I clock out.

I'm b-o-r-e-d...

My boss is on leave. So are most of my colleagues. I haven't got much work today.

I'm lazy and want to go home! Expect.... that I really don't know what I'm gonna do with myself when I do!

My gurlies won't meet me, I'm not motivated to study, there's nothing on TV, I have no DVDs to watch and meeting up with the ex-boyfriend always lands me in shit somehow. Bleah!

You know, this is why girls, at 27, should be married with kids.

2006-10-30T15:03:00.000+08:00

He is the patron saint of hopeless cases & desperate situations.

I went with 2 other girls and of course everybody there must have thought we were hopelessly and desperately waiting and praying for a husband.

Wrong!

I went to pray for the grace to trust God. To trust that He has a plan for me that's perfect and that's being fulfilled even as I write this.

2006-10-30T11:42:00.000+08:00

So I succumbed and bought this.

Sue me!

2006-10-28T13:04:00.000+08:00

It's barely noon and I'm already in a foul mood.

I just read the papers, you see.

Firstly, I can't believe this happened.

Can you believe it? This.....?? wt blardy f??!!

In a developing country like mine? Pleaseee lar! (Yes, you saw right. That is a picture of a train hanging off a track).

And of course, the corporate communication manager of the company responsible for this, in true Malaysian fashion, is proud to tell the media that 'there were no passengers on board and the driver was not hurt". Well, what if there were people on board? What would be Rapid KL's statement then?

Oh and of course the manager goes on to say “The cause of the accident is not yet known but Rapid KL is conducting a full investigation into the incident.”

'Cause not know and full investigation underway'. That famous line, uttered EVERYTIME something goes wrong in this country. The people are promised a full investigation and a detailed report. Our ministers say things like "The cause of the accident is not yet known but Rapid KL is conducting a full investigation into the incident”. Yet, these detailed reports never see the light of day.

Secondly, this is just too hard for me to swallow.

Former PM, Tun Dr M says he criticised current PM, Pak Lah because "no one else is able to criticise the Prime Minister. He cannot be criticised by his Deputy, his Cabinet Ministers, Umno Supreme Council members, Menteri Besar, Chief Ministers, Members of the Dewan Rakyat, Members of the Senate, Members of the State Legislative Council, Umno members at all levels, Government Officers and anyone from royalty to beggarss."

Please tell me, dear Tun, in the 22 years that you led my country, who dared criticise you? Who, for instance, dared speak up against this? And who dared speak up against this? Who, Tun? WHO?

So please Tun, save the drama and do as suggested.

Thirdly, I can't, for the life of me, understand how this was considered news-worthy. I really just can't. Yes, only in Malaysia does 'the Raya glow on somebody's face' make the news.

Ok I'm done. And suddenly, sick too. Please excuse while I go take fag.

2006-10-26T21:15:00.000+08:00

A good gal pal is one who gives you VERY good reasons why you should NOT buy this...

... on credit.

Thanks to my good gal pal, except for a study and car loan, I am still debt free.

2006-10-26T17:21:00.000+08:00

Was a huge fan of Stephen King in my teens.

REALLY didn't know he was so ugly!

Oh and he actually wrote a romance novel! wtf??

2006-10-26T15:59:00.000+08:00

Cool stuff for a baby.

The Fisher Price Infant-to-Toddler Rocker

Details here.

The Bumbo Seat
Details here.

NEXT Baby Clothes
Details here.

Don't even ask how I know of all this shit. Suffice to say, my kids are going to be spoilt rotten by a whole lotta it!

I just need to find a man with whom to pro-create.

... and my patience is wearing thin. Very thin.

2006-10-26T12:36:00.000+08:00

Things to remember when in next relationship:-

"Stop all shame, blame and criticism. Instead ask for what you want in a clear, specific and positive manner, and express appreciation for your partner. To elaborate: Men need to feel competent—that they make a contribution and that it is noticed."
— Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want

"Change from a critical habit of mind, in which you're very involved with your partner's mistakes, to a positive one, in which you catch him doing something right."
— John M. Gottman, PhD, author of The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

"When your relationship starts to break down, you need AAA: an Apology, Affection, and a promise of Action. You say you're sorry for what you've said or done to hurt or disappoint your partner. You immediately offer a hug, a kiss—some meaningful gesture of warmth. You pledge to do something that matters to your partner."
— Mira Kirshenbaum, psychotherapist and author of The Weekend Marriage

"With books on the market like How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, one of the greatest services you can do for a guy is to reassure him that he doesn't have to make love like a porn star. You can show him how to have sex like a woman: creative, sensual, non-genital-based, and more pleasure- than orgasm-focused."
— Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First

"All relationships grow a bit stale as time goes by, and the longer-lasting they are, the staler they can get. The best thing you can do is pump in some fresh air. A long weekend in a romantic hideaway would be ideal, but even a few hours in a motel helps. Don't tell anyone where you are, turn off your cell phones, and unplug the TV. When you get home, you'll find your relationship has acquired ruddy cheeks."
— Dr. Ruth Westheimer, psychosexual therapist and author of 52 Lessons on Communicating Love

2006-10-26T12:35:00.000+08:00

I hung out with my gurlies nearly everyday this week...

... and never once got bored.

"It's hard to find people who will love you no matter what.
I found three of them."

Carrie Bradshaw on Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte

2006-10-21T11:28:00.000+08:00

Aaaaaahhhhhh :-)))

2006-10-20T16:38:00.000+08:00

“Mr. Right's coming, but he's in Africa, and he's walking”

~ Oprah Winfrey

LOL!!! HAHAAAHAAAHAA :)))

2006-10-20T15:30:00.000+08:00

We were discussing 'Books That Made a Lasting Impression' on this online forum and I shared about Wild Swans.

Brought back memories of the post-SPM days.

Of me. Huddled under covers on my bed. Coke can in one hand. This book in the other. Eyes fixed on pages. Mind and heart in 20th-century China.

Wild Swans is thick... and daunting to read. I almost didn't buy it.

But I did. And soon, Chang's flawless story-telling ability began to capture my undivided attention. Dry topics like the Cultural Revolution and The Great Leap Forward suddenly became interesting. Chang wrote from the heart, giving accounts of Chinese history from a frank, honest and personal perspective.

When I had completed it, I felt like I had gone a journey of China through the years, with Chang as my tour guide!

Phew - what a story! What a writer! What an experience!
Truly, a great writing is a gift to the world.

2006-10-20T09:30:00.000+08:00

I'm playing Cupid.

Introducing some friends to each other. If all works well, there'll be...

4 less lonely people in the world...

2006-10-18T12:13:00.000+08:00

Nothin' says it better than good ol' country :)

Every Time Two Fools Collide

~ Kenny Rogers

You want things your way

And I want them mine

And now we don't know

Just where to draw the line

How long can love survive

If we keep choosing sides

And who picks up the pieces

Every time two fools collide

You lay the blame on me

And I, the blame on you

But why do we keep finding faults

In everything we do

And how long can we keep right and wrongs

So cut and dry

And who picks up the pieces

Every time two fools collide

2006-10-17T16:23:00.000+08:00

The following news made headlines in my country today.

Maid gang-raped and robbed
Girl alleges rape by priest
Three-year-old girl allegedly abused by dad

It ain't safe living where I live.

2006-10-16T12:28:00.000+08:00

Ok... zeroed my credit card balance.

So far, have NOT swiped it for any unplanned purchases. :-)

On another note, a guy-friend proposed to his girlfriend over the weekend. It was sweet and romantic. I'm happy for them & desperate for me! Fuck...

2006-10-10T15:51:00.000+08:00

Is it a good thing that I'm 27 and still living with my parents?

Shoul I just move out and move on!!?

2006-10-09T09:16:00.000+08:00

Maxed out on my credit card limit... again.

The first time I cleared by debt (with hard-earned year-end bonus), I swore I'd be more careful. Bleah...

Anyway, after this second-time-clearing-up-debt-strategy (with more hard-earned money), I swear - I WILL NEVER INCUR CREDIT CARD DEBT AGAIN!!! NEVER!!